3 Ways to Build Better Communication in Marriage

I smile as I remember our stories when Percy and I were in our dating years. We rarely got to see each other and we sent handwritten letters whenever we want. Hihi! :P 

Just a generation later, we have hundreds of ways to communicate. Call/text. Facebook. Facetime, Skype. The list could go on and on… As technology increases, you would think communication would become easier. But it’s really not. If anything, I believe that effective communication in marriage is becoming MORE difficult. 

Notice I said effective communication in marriage. I believe there’s a big difference between talking and communicating. And I’ve learned that effective communication in marriage is essential. Let me share with you what I have learned:

1. Pick one night a week to have a no-technology evening. Turn your phone and computer off, and let your spouse know you are making time for them. Don’t expect them to do the same; just show that you are there

2. If your spouse is talking to you about something, set aside any distractions. Look at them, listen, and say something relevant in response.

3. Ask your spouse how you can be a better listener and communicator. By humbly approaching them and asking how you’re doing in this area, you’ll show that you care about them enough to make a change. Be prepared to respond with grace instead of arguing back if they tell you something that you can work on. 

Above all, I believe that the key to effective communication in marriage is prayer. The truth is, much more important than a three-step plan for better communication in marriage is to take time to communicate with the Creator of marriage. Ask God to guide you as you build better communication in marriage.

Xoxo,